Think you have a good idea how you’re perceived in your office? Think again.
Turns out many of your co-workers may know you better than you know yourself … at least when it comes to certain things.
That’s the upshot of a recent article in Psychology Today.
Even the most self-aware person may not be the best judge of certain parts of his or her own personality. Which may mean that you’re not exactly viewed in your workplace in the way you’ve always thought you were.
Of course there are certain things you’re the ultimate authority on when it comes to your behaviors. The biggies: your optimism, pessimism, self esteem and anxiety levels.
And there are some things that are easy for everyone to agree on, like whether you’re an extrovert, talkative or dominant.
But check out the instances where your co-workers may be the best gauge of how you really are, known as “blindspots:”
1. Your body language
You’ve read all the articles on how to project an open and confident posture through body language. But there’s probably no mirror around most of the time. So you might not even realize that when you’re concentrating you’re actually scowling. You may think you’re giving the impression you’re listening intently, but you’re giving off the impression you’re skeptical or uncooperative.
2. How smart you are
There’s usually a disconnect between how intelligent people rate themselves and their IQ test results. The reason? Most people want to see themselves in the most favorable light. Interestingly, people’s friends usually came much closer at accurately rating how smart they are.
3. How honest you are
This is pure self-preservation at work here. No one wants to think of him or herself as dishonest or even deceptive. But then again, you’re not usually privy to workplace gossip or other chatter. Anything from that pesky body language again to other subtle cues may let you know if you are at least being perceived as less honest than you would characterize yourself.
So how to you close the great divide or even get another glimpse into your personality at work? Find a few trusted colleagues or even a boss or mentor you can ask for the real deal.
Won’t change who you are … but it might give you a more well-rounded picture. And that can benefit your career.